Horatii 1784 a fight between the curatti brothers and the 3 horatii
We define “offended” as someone getting their feelings hurt. Whatever the situation, it is all about your perception and the need for someone else to make things right. All the work is on the offender because you are hurt by him or her. But that is not what is meant in Proverbs 18:19:
A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city: and their contentions are like the bars of a castle.
That word offended there does not mean that someone else has hurt the offended brother or wounded them. It is the same idea as what happened in heaven with Satan and his angels (Jude 1:6).
pasha` – primitive root (identical with pasa` – to stride (from spreading the legs) i.e. rush upon: – go – through the idea of expansion); to break away (from just authority), i.e. trespass, apostatize, quarrel: — offend, rebel, revolt, transgress.
All to often we have flipped the meaning of this verb around. God didn’t offend Satan; Satan offended God! Satan took a stand, he strides to break away from the authority of God; he trespassed against God; he apostatizes – abandons his post, his position, his beliefs; he quarrels – HE offends, rebells, revolts. Satan was the offense, not God.
When we say we are offended – do we really mean we are transgressing, breaking away from just authority, apostatizing? Are we abandoning our faith? Or are we offending our faith with our constant need to have our fragile feelings validated? Why are we a culture of offendedness?
I think because we are an offense. We are apostates in that we abandon our principles the moment we think someone has offended us.
That’s judgement. We are judging the hearts and actions of someone as rebellious, revolting, purposefully taking a stand against us. We are accusing people of apostasy! – every time we cry “offense!” “offense”!
Almost always no one has offended you; you are just sensitive. You want a word, a cause that will justify your feelings, rather than sound doctrine and reasoning that tells your feelings to come under rule and reign of your spirit. 1 Corinthians 13 tells us that love believes the best. Why can’t we believe the best about people’s intentions? Why can’t we overlook an insult according to Proverbs 19:11?
We are a culture of offense – rebellion and revolting, breaking away from just authority. We do not trust, nor seek, nor desire the Bible as an authority, nor God as its author, nor him as our creator.
We don’t trust that God would tell us we are the offense.
Therefore we are offended.
Therefore we are more like Satan than the image of God.
And blessed is he, whosoever shall not be offended in me.
offended – skandalizo – to entrap, i.e. trip up, entice to sin, apostasy
1. put a stumbling block or impediment in the way, upon which another may trip
a. to entice to sin
b. to cause a person to begin to distrust and desert one whom he ought to trust and obey
1. cause to fall away
2. to be offended in one, i.e. to see in another what I disapprove of and what hinders me from acknowledging his authority.
3. to cause one to judge unfavorably or unjustly of another
Take time to study what offended really means and who it really applies to, then make a commitment to not accuse others of offending, and to not be offended yourself.
in as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men…